Humans are known for their emotional nature, often seeking solace and compassion from others when they’re feeling down. Our faithful four-legged companions are often the go-to source of comfort during these times. Heartwarming stories abound of dogs offering support to their owners in moments of stress or sorrow, or of service dogs assisting individuals during panic attacks.
However, not all dogs instinctively provide comfort when their owners cry. When we turn to our dogs for solace and are met with indifference, it can be quite disheartening. But why do some dogs seem indifferent to our tears?
The truth is that most dogs may not respond to our tears in the way we expect. Dogs have their own unique understanding of human sadness and the concept of offering comfort. While some dogs may indeed try to console their weeping owners, their approach often varies from the conventional notion of comfort.
In the following sections, we will explore the potential reasons why a dog might not seem capable of comforting their owner during moments of distress and sadness.
We will also delve into whether it is a cause for concern if your furry friend does not exhibit comforting behavior and how you can potentially encourage your dog to provide more solace during your times of need. Lastly, we will address whether certain dogs are more or less inclined to offer comfort when their owners are in tears.
5 Explanations for Why Your Dog Doesn’t Offer Comfort When You’re Crying
The reasons behind your dog’s lack of comfort may vary depending on the specific circumstances you and your pet are facing. Just like humans, individual dogs have their own thresholds and preferences when it comes to dealing with intense emotions.
Some dogs may naturally gravitate towards you when you’re crying, while others may not (rest assured, they’re not tired of you!). Some dogs may only stick around briefly or when the crying is soft and subdued.
In general, most dogs do not respond with comfort when their owners cry due to one or more of the following factors.
Reason 1: Dogs Lack Understanding of Human Emotions
The primary explanation for your dog’s apparent lack of comfort when you’re in tears lies in the fact that dogs do not comprehend human emotions in the same way we do. While dogs can experience emotions like happiness, sadness, or anger, their emotional spectrum is not as intricate as that of humans, and their expressions of these emotions differ from ours.
When you’re feeling sad and shedding tears, your dog may not provide comfort because they might not actually recognize that you’re sad or crying. If they do attempt to comfort you, it’s often due to an association they’ve formed between your crying and some other action that either pleases or displeases them, such as going for a calming walk or reacting to an outburst of anger.
This association is established through a process known as classical conditioning, where your dog links your crying and the actions you undertake when feeling down to a particular outcome, either positive or negative.
It’s relatively rare for a dog to spontaneously offer comfort without prior exposure to your emotional distress. However, certain dog breeds may be more inclined to do so, and specially trained dogs can exhibit this behavior through training, as I’ll elaborate on later.
Dogs that have spent an extended period in your company may exhibit appeasement behaviors, such as licking their lips, gently nudging you with their nose, pawing at you, or rolling onto their backs to expose their bellies when they detect your sadness.
These appeasement behaviors are displayed toward both humans and other dogs and are often the result of a dog being in a conflicted emotional state, typically stemming from confusion regarding your unusual behavior. The dog is attempting to convey to its owner that it poses no harm.
Humans often interpret this as a comforting gesture, but there is still a considerable amount of research needed to fully comprehend the extent of dogs’ comprehension of complex human emotions like sadness and grief.
Reason 2: Your Body Language Confuses Them
Dogs primarily communicate through body language, and every subtle movement we make conveys significant signals to them. When we’re distressed and shedding tears, our body language can become extremely bewildering, and we might inadvertently send mixed signals.
For dogs, especially those unaccustomed to witnessing human tears, our body language can be disconcerting and provoke anxiety. In such cases, if our dogs distance themselves from us while we cry, it may be because they are uncomfortable with the unfamiliar body language we’re displaying and don’t comprehend its meaning. Consequently, they might opt to remove themselves from the situation.
Alternatively, they might strive to decipher our non-verbal “communication” by responding with appeasement behaviors. Additionally, they may engage in play behaviors like the play bow, barking, whining, or even execute various obedience commands such as “Sit,” “Down,” or “Crawl” in an effort to discern the message conveyed by our tearful bodies.
While these responses might seem peculiar to us, they could be interpreted as a dog’s way of attempting to provide comfort or, at the very least, to solicit clearer guidance through our body language.
Reason 3: Lack of Training in Providing Comfort
In many cases, a dog that actively offers comfort has typically undergone specialized training for this purpose. This is particularly evident in service dogs, therapy dogs, and certain emotional support animals.
Service dogs and therapy dogs, before they even begin their training, undergo a rigorous selection process to ensure their comfort and suitability in aiding individuals in distress. This is also why you often find service dogs and therapy dogs of similar breeds, a concept I will delve deeper into in the next section.
Depending on the specific needs of an individual, a service dog may receive training in particular behaviors aimed at providing comfort during moments of distress, such as a service dog trained to assist someone with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). While these dogs may be at ease around people in distress, they often don’t naturally offer comfort to their owners (or the general public, in the case of therapy dogs) until after they’ve received specialized training.
The training for service dogs is comprehensive and varies depending on the unique requirements of the handler. In most cases, these dogs are taught to respond in a prescribed manner to specific actions performed by the owner or to discern alterations in the owner’s body language or scent.
Therapy dogs, even though they are not trained for specific tasks and do not serve a single handler, often undergo desensitization training to become more relaxed in the presence of individuals in distress. They are rewarded for maintaining composure in stressful situations, and this training can be quite intensive.
Emotional support animals, on the other hand, typically do not receive any formal training and, like any other dogs, may or may not naturally offer comfort to their owners.
Reason 4: Influence of Breed Sociability
It’s a well-known fact that certain dog breeds are recognized for their sociable and affectionate nature, while others may be less inclined to display such traits. This inherent sociability can also influence a dog’s likelihood to provide comfort when you’re in tears.
While every dog possesses a unique personality, breeds that have a reputation for being amiable and family-oriented tend to be more predisposed to responding when you’re crying, compared to other breeds that might simply walk away from the situation.
Breeds within the Toy, Hound, and Sporting groups are more likely to exhibit forms of comforting behavior towards their owners. In contrast, breeds within the Working and Herding groups may exhibit a wider range of responses, varying from one dog to another.
For instance, in my personal experience, one of my German Shepherds offers comfort when I’m sad, while the other Shepherd tends to leave the room.
Reason 5: They’re Comforting You in Their Unique Way
Much like their differences in emotions, dogs possess a distinct way of comforting each other, different from human methods. If you notice your dog engaging in peculiar behaviors while you’re crying, it could be their way of offering comfort, albeit not in the manner you might anticipate.
Actions like playfulness, fetching toys or even unusual objects (like socks or shoes), barking, or twirling around can all be interpreted as your pup’s attempt to discern what you need and convey their willingness to help.
Just take a look at this video for a prime example!
Is It Problematic If My Dog Ignores or Avoids Me When I Cry?
No, it is not problematic if your dog doesn’t offer comfort when you’re in tears. Once again, dogs lack a comprehensive understanding of human emotions, and their concept of comfort differs from ours.
The quirky, amusing, or endearing behaviors they exhibit while we’re crying might actually be their way of attempting to provide comfort. However, it’s challenging to determine this without further research into how dogs comprehend human emotions and the behaviors associated with them.
Can I Train My Dog to Provide Comfort When I Cry?
Yes, you can train your dog to offer comfort when you cry, but it depends on the specific dog.
If your canine companion is very timid or responds negatively or anxiously to your crying, it’s best to allow them their space. However, if your dog does display signs of wanting to be near you when you’re crying, you can work on teaching them specific behaviors during these moments.
Dogs excel at helping us navigate through challenging emotions, and even if they are unaware that they are offering comfort, they can genuinely help us feel better!
Service dogs and therapy dogs require intricate training tailored to their respective roles. However, if your goal is simply to have your loyal four-legged friend be more supportive during your emotional moments, you can train them to remain calm while you pet or hold them.
Start by holding and petting them when you’re not crying or upset, and reward them generously every time they remain still. Assigning a verbal cue such as “comfort” or even just “Sit/Stay” can be useful for instructing your dog to provide comfort when you’re in distress.
The next time you find yourself crying, use the cue you’ve assigned, and reward your dog when they come to you. If your dog displays signs of stress or attempts to avoid being held or petted at any point, do not compel them to stay.
Are Some Dogs More Inclined to Comfort Me When I Cry?
As mentioned earlier, certain dog breeds may be more inclined to remain by your side and attempt to offer comfort (in their own unique way) while you’re crying. However, it’s essential to understand that this behavior is truly individual to each dog, and you should not anticipate a dog of a specific breed to behave in a particular manner solely because it’s typical of that breed.
In some instances, female dogs in estrus or during the whelping period may exhibit increased affection toward their owner, which can extend to moments when their owners are in tears.
Dogs that have been raised around young children may not always have a natural inclination to be with you when you’re crying, and it’s unreasonable to expect them to provide comfort to a crying child either. Dogs may also be more likely to offer comfort to a crying owner if they believe they will receive something desirable in return, such as a meal.
Concluding Remarks
While some individual dogs or specially trained dogs may respond to our tears with comforting gestures, it’s important to understand that, in general, offering comfort is not something that comes naturally to most dogs. Dogs do experience emotions, although not in the exact same way as humans do (although they do share some similar emotions). Their comprehension and expression of comforting behavior can be markedly different from our own.
Rather than forcing our canine companions to provide comfort when we’re sad, we can still find comfort in their presence and respect their boundaries by engaging in activities that bring them joy, such as petting or playing. Most of the time, when our dogs are happy, we can’t help but feel a little happier too!
The most frequent questions and answers on the topic: Why Doesn’t My Dog Seem to Care When I Cry?
Dogs have a different understanding of human emotions, and their way of offering comfort differs from ours.
Dogs may not recognize that their owners are sad or crying; they might respond based on associations or cues.
Yes, you can train your dog to offer comfort, but it depends on the individual dog and their temperament.
Some breeds known for being sociable and affectionate may be more prone to comforting their owners, but it varies by the dog’s personality.
Dogs may exhibit a range of behaviors, such as playing, bringing toys, barking, or simply being near you in their unique way of offering comfort.
Service dogs are often trained to provide comfort, but it requires specialized training to do so effectively.
Therapy dogs are trained to be calm and relaxed around people in distress, providing comfort to those in need.
Not all dogs naturally comfort crying children, and it’s not something you should expect from every dog.
Dogs rely on body language to communicate their emotions and often respond to the body language of their owners.
It’s not problematic if your dog doesn’t offer comfort when you cry, as their responses to human emotions can be quite different from our expectations.
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